A few weeks after giving birth to my daughter, Elizabeth, by emergency Caesarean, my doctor said, "I felt something wrong the last time you entered. "
She had suffered a massive injury brain from undetected complications before birth.
I do not know what my face looked when I heard his words there are 18 years, but I remember that inside I was screaming: "So why not do something"
Elizabeth would have finished high school this year if it has not suffered the injury. I think to join his brother at Michigan State. Maybe she wants to be a television journalist like her mother.
But it is not going anywhere. She will always be in our house as our child forever.
If you or a loved one has been diagnosed with mesothelioma, I suspect you may have experienced the same sense of loss and betrayal.
there might be someone to blame: perhaps it was your employer, an asbestos manufacturers or military installation. Where are they now while you or your loved ones suffer?
prevent damage to your emotional well-being
As a Christian, I chose the path of recognition and please mind to avoid falling into a trap of bitterness.
bitterness and resentment serve no purpose.
For many people dealing with mesothelioma, or if your own diagnosis of a loved one, bitterness will not remove the disease or the emotions it creates.
it will not be as punishing those whose negligence was responsible for causing the disease.
bitterness only leads to anger, hatred, evil and revenge.
and if it is prescribed to Christianity, another religion or even atheism, we can all agree are harmful feelings.
Dr. Stephen Diamond, a psychologist based in California, said bitterness is "one of the most destructive and toxic human emotions."
Another California psychologist, Dr. Leon F. Seltzer, further explains that "if we repeatedly ruminate on how we were victims, our" nursing "our wrongs may eventually come to define an essential part of who we are and take our personality. And so we will end up becoming victims not so much of someone else, but especially from ourselves "
Seltzer said yield to bitterness :.
- extends mental and emotional pain
- Leads to long term anxiety, depression or both
- Prevents live fully in the present
- Creates or deepens an attitude of mistrust and cynicism that could turn others away
- compromise or weaken our highest ideals, negatively impacting the personal search for purpose and meaning to life
- erodes our sense of well-being
- affect the physical health
And if you fight against mesothelioma, which compromises your physical health is the last thing you want. you have everything you have to fight against the disease
Christian speaker Joyce Meyer familiar places like this :. . "It's like talking about the poison and hoping your enemy is going to die"
Learning to Forgive
Seltzer believes forgiveness only allows us to let go of grievances, grudges, resentment and resentment. It is the single most powerful antidote to bitterness
How then can we forgive
- Forgiveness is not a feeling.; it's a choice.
- Choose to forgive.
- Say it aloud. Tell someone else. Tell whenever bitterness arises.
- Keep the big picture in mind. Was your asbestos exposure a personal vendetta against you? Probably not. Was it negligence, ignorance, corporate greed or three? Probably.
- Life on this planet leads to many injustices for many people.
- Do not let the bitterness steal the last years of your life or that of your loved ones. Instead, rise above, and be an example to live victoriously, despite the difficulties and unfair circumstances.
- If you believe in God, believe that He has your life in his hands.
- Don 't confuse bitterness with the desire for justice. You should receive compensation if you have developed mesothelioma due to asbestos exposure. You can forgive and be compensated at the same time.
I look back on my life since my daughter was born. Believe me, I'm not emotional or spiritual giant, but if I were to let bitterness take hold of that day there almost 18 years, I do not know what I could have endured this trip.
It was hard enough like that.
When you fight a disease like mesothelioma or serve the caregiver for someone who has a spirit of forgiveness, joy, gratitude, and a sense of humor go a long way in making this rough ride more bearable.
